These will all be questions anyone has heard before or asked themselves.
Do you have someone in your life that is constantly accusing you of nothing? That you lie because you did when you were growing up? That the choices you’ve made are wrong, but they’re older and unhappy? That everything you say is wrong, somehow, but they’re never right?
You are not alone.
Firstly. We all know in our hearts what’s immoral and what’s right. You don’t need someone to tell you that. The only reason someone would tell you is in the attempt to control, hurt, use, abuse or all.
It is seldom a random stranger. Typically, it’s your mother, father, uncle, even a favorite cousin. In a lot of cases, it’s a spouse.
Here’s a thought I want you to remember. If you were actually weak and easy to get to, would it be worth them trying to hurt you?
People who hurt others have double standards for themselves that make no sense. Like pretending to be the bride of Christ, using a sacred book to decide their child’s fate, but not accepting the things their offspring is capable of.
While it seems ideal to “fight back”, know from my experience…that the Universe will serve them back their dose of karma, and then some.
I’ve had to watch someone close to me LOSE THEIR MIND, and not even realize it’s happening to them.
Here’s a few things to remember. Words, used unkindly, used to control, demean, manipulate and belittle…are spells. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. So keep that in mind. You tell someone they’re wonderful, they’ll begin to feel that way.
You tell someone they’re worthless, they may take some time to overcome that, but it will fall back on YOU. I believe the worst thing you can do is lie, and act like you’d never do such a thing.
Don’t worry about how good your memory is. That Universe will remember for you. Seeking revenge makes you just like them.
Try to recall when you get attacked the most…before a success begins. And after a success has happened. The only thing they can do is try to use the same words they used before to hurt you.
Ever argued your case? They try to make you feel like you’re crazy by bringing up your past, as if they don’t have one themselves. They’ll even suggest they acquire even more respect, which is more obvious than none.
Speak your side. Tell them how you feel. Walk away. It isn’t so they’ll stop, it’s to let them know you see their bullshit, and their efforts are pointless.
Still feeling raw about it? Remind yourself of the things you’ve done and who have become.
Lastly, all attacks are definitely spiritual. They come when you realize something, or when you’re about to do even better than how you are now. It is definitely a test. And no matter how it ends, make sure to keep this in mind.
You don’t owe them an apology for their behavior and hatred. You don’t have to talk with them. You can be cordial, and polite…but that nice, friendly shit needs to fly right out of the window. Save your kind heart for anyone else who deserves it.
Set boundaries. Let them know they’ve crossed the line. You don’t have to be mean, and it doesn’t matter how they take what you’ve said if you’re defending yourself. Take some time to meditate. Listen to music. Take a walk afterwards.
And ignore them. Even when they offer cookies, or concert tickets. It’s a trap. This person isn’t apologizing, they’re hoping you’re stupid enough to take that bait.
And remind yourself of who you are.