Have you been a giver? Committed yourself to ensuring everyone you come across, perhaps more so that you care for, has what they need?
During this time, did someone misuse your trust?
Don’t answer quite yet, as there is something I must say before you relive your past.
Continue to give. Giving, especially abundance of energy, is good for you in the long run.
Anyone who ever takes advantage of you because you love to give, surely, is seeking their own demise.
It occurred to me the other day, preparing something for someone special. I realized how much people take from each other…and blame the person who was willingly giving to a certain extent. At first, I was very upset. As you can imagine, it isn’t something I have fond memories of. But then, I realized my place in life….the lessons learned…and my willingness to still give…
How could I feel bad?
I see those who have taken from me, constantly suffering. Never being able to move past some type of pain, or even a certain thought. I did not wish a personal hell upon anyone who has hurt me. I did ask why it happened, and learned why. But retaliation was never needed.
Ultimately, I am grateful for giving. I suffered no repercussions after breaking things off or setting boundaries. I suffered during these times to see the mistakes I was making. In some cases, I didn’t realize what I was doing. Fueling the fire, enabilizing their behavior. But I am so glad I learned.
A lot of people imagine that after someone has hurt you, when you’ve been kind, you stop. That is the entire point behind negative attacks-to stop light from spreading. Continue helping, and continue being kind. Learn who to help, though. But if you end up with a toxic person, don’t feel as though you’ve wasted your time.
Spot red flag behavior. Notice what someone does…even on a first date/meeting. You’ll see how they really are. It sounds like a lot of work, but it’ll save you a lot of heartache.
If you have been hurt, accept the pain…then transmute it into positive energy. You will always have to do this all your days, so it is best not to dwell on the past.
You don’t have to go back and help the people who have hurt you, either. Make your peace with how they are. And love yourself…your vibe attracts your tribe.